Are You Waiting For Someone to Save You?

We wait, and we never turn on our full potential because we are hoping someone else will swoop at one point and save us.” – Kate Northrup

How is it that other people seem to do more and achieve more than others? Are they more special? Do they have more time than others? What is it?

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The main reason people achieve amazing things is that they’ve taken charge of their lives. The rest have big dreams and write-up special plans but never take action.

Fortunately, there’s a way to change this reality.

Barriers to Living a Successful Life

People never stop to think about it, but the barriers to a successful life lead back to the individual. Here are some of them:

1. Tough Seasons in Life

Everyone experiences seasons of suffering and happiness. The problem is many stay stuck in the pain and suffering. Not all problems can be fixed with a positive attitude though. You may need to seek professional help to guide you through your suffering.

For the rest, it’s about accepting failure, either consciously or unconsciously. You resign yourself to your fate. You don’t even make an effort to get out.

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2. Poor Attitude/Mentality

There’s this saying: “A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go anywhere until you change it.”

It is true about many people. They don’t want to do anything but complain when things don’t work out. If they do get something done, it’s always a half-hearted attempt.

3. Blaming Others

A key trait of non-performers is their ability to find someone to blame for their failures. Other times, they blame the weather, traffic, internet, machines, or something else. Never once do they point the finger at themselves.

4. Procrastination

Procrastinators have poor time management, self-regulation, and motivation to achieve their goals. They always find a way to not do what they planned to do.

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Maybe subconsciously, whatever they want isn’t what they truly want. Otherwise, they would find a way or the motivation to chase their dreams.

5. Lack of Purpose

This ties into the previous point. If you live a purposeful life, you’ll have the motivation to take action. You are inspired by your goals and the results you expect to see.

It’s safe to say there are more points we could add to the list above. But the ones above capture the essence of it all. So what can we do to get out of this rut?

Keys to Living a Successful Life

Deep down, many people are waiting for someone to come and save them. They are hoping some mysterious relative will bequeath them his or her wealth. They are hoping some CEO will bump into them on the street and give them a job. They are hoping they will scratch a raffle ticket and make millions.

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Sadly, this dream never comes to reality. Maybe it does for some, but not for most people.

You have to take charge of your life and take action toward your dreams.

Here’s how you’ll do it:

  • Read more
  • Plan a goal that inspires you
  • Think success and take steps
  • Meditate and hold a clear vision of the life you want
  • Adopt a positive attitude toward work, life, and relationships
  • Cultivate great relationships and seek advice from successful people
  • Help others achieve their goals
  • Choose how you’ll spend your time and become productive
  • Track and measure your progress
  • Pursue a healthy lifestyle to prevent avoidable diseases.

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If you faithfully do these things, you’ll start seeing improvements in your life. And once the momentum kicks in, YOU’LL BE UNSTOPPABLE!

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How to Unstick Your Life

The first quarter of 2018 is over, which means it’s time to review your progress. Are you fulfilling your New Year’s resolutions or did you ditch them already? Is it looking likely you won’t accomplish anything noteworthy for another year?

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You see, this is something that happens every year. On the first day, everyone is excited and looking forward to what they can achieve. Then, slowly by slowly, the wheels on the train start coming off. You are stuck and right back in your usual pattern of going through the motions.

Luckily, there’s a way you can unstick your life. Keep reading to find out what the problem is and what you can do to fix it.

Reasons Why People Get Stuck in Life

Only about nine percent of people feel they achieved their resolutions. This goes to show how much people either veer off course or get stuck in their current life path.

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Unfortunately, a side effect of this is it leads to stress, discontent, and sadness. It may make you feel like a failure. And if it was something really important you needed to do, your self-esteem and respect may take a big hit.

There are a couple of reasons why people get stuck in life. These include vague goals, procrastinating, poor attitude, and taking on too many projects. You may also be managing your time poorly or letting others discourage you from your goals.

All these reasons serve to create the perception you did nothing all year. Yet, sometimes, people end up accomplishing other things they didn’t plan for. Even so, failure to follow through on your stated goals means you ended up away from your life path.

As John Robert Wooden, multiple NCAA championship title-winning coach, once said, “Don’t mistake activity with achievement.”

Steps to Get Your Life and Goals Moving Forward

Since time won’t stop anytime soon, it’s up to us to get our lives and goals moving forward. Otherwise, we’ll get to old age, look back, and realize the great opportunities we wasted.

Here are some steps to help you unstick your life and start achieving your goals:

1. Find Your Purpose

Many people struggle with the idea of finding their purpose. What they don’t realize is they don’t need to sit around brainstorming to find it. That’s why some have ended up with a written purpose that doesn’t match their true nature.

Try this instead; Go out and take action in many of the things you love doing. You’ll find there’s one thing sticking out to you. It will be something you’d be happy to do even if you didn’t get paid (though everyone needs to get paid to survive).

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Your purpose will be something inspiring. It will get you out of bed very early. It will leave you longing for each new morning to arrive faster because you have unfinished work.

2. Deal With Burnout

One reason for the lack of progress in work, relationships, and life is burnout. It lurks within you crippling your desire to get anything done. It stifles your creativity, reduces your enthusiasm, and makes you feel tired all the time.

The problem is people don’t realize they are burned out until it’s too late. Their work suffers, their relationships strain, and their goals become a distant memory. They are just going through the motions.

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We are meant to enjoy life despite its ups and downs. To do this, though, you need to take good care of your body. Thus, take a break once in a while to rejuvenate. Eat well, practice a healthy lifestyle, and get a balance between work and play.

3. Make Actionable Plans

A key element missing from most resolutions is the “How”. While people write what they want to achieve and why, they forget to write how they’ll get it done. As such, they end up stuck because they don’t know what the best approach is.

Instead, write down actionable plans. Do you want to lose weight? Fine, why do you want to lose it? Okay, how do you plan to lose it? Will you run, eat better diets, wear slimming clothes, or work out at the gym? How many times do you plan to do these things? How will you track your progress or measure your results?

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This process is crucial to getting you moving forward. Your brain will be asking what the next step is and generating an answer. This will give you momentum to achieve things in other areas as well.

The more you do, the more motivated you’ll be to get more done. This motivation will energize you every morning and you’ll be checking your list to see what you need to do.

4. Manage Your Time Better

Time management is another Achilles heel of most underachievers. It seems like the day always ends before you’ve done anything of note. Yet, during the day, you were the busiest person alive.

How does this happen?

Well, it goes back to the nature of your goals. They are only a statement on a piece of paper. They are not actionable. As such, you go through the day like a ship without a sail. You are going where the wind blows.

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Many overachievers give a simple solution to this issue. They urge people to choose three things to achieve that day and work on those. This gives you a target you can hone in on throughout the day. You won’t be swayed by the usual distractions such as social media or chatty co-workers.

You should have a detailed system for achieving those three goals. Outline the needed actions and achieve them one-by-one.

5. Never Give Up

Another obstacle to fulfilling your goals is giving up when the pressures of life hit you hard. Your boss could be the one hindering your progress. Or, it could be forces beyond your control.

This is where many people stop. They lift up their hands and say, “I tried”. That’s the wrong attitude. You must want to achieve your goal at all costs. The only way to want it that badly is by understanding why the goal is important to you.

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Make a plan of action with your “why” in mind. Find solutions for every obstruction. Can you talk to someone else? Is there a different approach?

Start small and build momentum. Every small goal you achieve will lead you to the big one. And if obstacles and people put you down, never give up!!!

6. Get an Accountability Partner

It’s easier to achieve your goals when you have someone backing you up. Whether it’s in the gym or on any other issue in life, you need an accountability partner. This should be someone who cares for you and wants to see you succeed.

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If that’s not possible, hire a personal life coach. They can help remind you what you are working toward. They’ll also light a fire inside you when you start procrastinating. As you continue doing things you don’t like, you’ll discover you are moving closer to your goals every day.

Begin Moving Your Life Forward Again

Applying the steps above will help you start moving your life forward again. Get clear on your goals, make them actionable, and start doing a bit at a time. Stop procrastinating and choose what you’ll accomplish each day.

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Within no time, you’ll find your resolutions and any other goals are almost complete. Unstick your life and achieve your dreams.

“Successful men and women keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

Burnout Will Ruin Your Life – Here’s What You Should Do

Have you ever sat somewhere feeling physically, mentally, and emotionally fatigued? If you were not ill, you were probably suffering from Burnout.

Burnout is a job killing, life-sapping state that hits you when you least expect it. The Mayo Clinic adds that job burnout also includes doubts about your competence and your work value. You lack the motivation to do anything and everything seems overwhelming. It’s like a heavy weight on your shoulders that no one else can see.

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According to workplacefairness.org, some American companies give their employees some time off to prevent burnout and to improve employee morale. Other companies are making it mandatory for their employees to take their vacation days because they know that a burnt out employee will be an unproductive employee.

What are the Symptoms of Burnout?

While there are many ideas why burnout occurs, I believe the simple way to summarise these ideas is to label the cause as a sense of defeat in multiple situations, that is, at work, physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Examples of such situations as outlined by HelpGuide.org include loss of control, doing boring or unchallenging work, procrastinating, work-life imbalance, and unclear or demanding job expectations.

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Once these situations get out of hand, you find yourself suffering from symptoms such as:

  • Chronic exhaustion and stress
  • Lack of motivation to do anything
  • Anxiety and depression
  • Frustration and Irritability
  • Unproductive and inefficient work
  • A weakened immune system due to overwhelming stress
  • Muscle aches and pains
  • Insomnia
  • Feelings of apathy, hopelessness, and loneliness

Having these symptoms especially over an extended period will ruin your life. You have to do something to start feeling better, enjoying life again and feeling that you are making a difference in life and at work.

Tips to Help You Overcome Burnout

Realising that your life has lost its sparkle is the first step to getting better. The next question becomes, “What steps can I take to get out of this funk?”

There are several things you can do:

  • Take a Vacation

Dropping everything you are doing and taking a trip can do wonders for your health and your outlook on life. When you are exhausted mentally, physically and emotionally, it’s like you are stuck in a rut. Going somewhere new helps you get perspective on what is going on in your life and the steps you can take to fix it. Just relaxing on a beach somewhere can be cathartic.

Spending some time outdoors is also beneficial because the sun is good for your health. According to Harvard Health, the sun gives you Vitamin D, which counteracts seasonal affective disorder (SAD), otherwise known as winter depression.

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  • Talk to a Trusted Friend

A problem shared is a problem half-solved. Talking to someone helps you get out of your head, where you have been so focused on your problems that you couldn’t see the solutions. Talking makes your mind start thinking about new ideas for your life. It is also always comforting to know someone cares enough about you to be willing to listen to your problems.

  • Balance your Work and your Life

Working relentlessly without taking the time to talk to your friends and family can sap your joy for life. In a TED Talk by psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, he concluded that their 75-year old study on what makes a good life is by building good relationships.

Once you start making time from work to go see your kids in a play or to meet and make new friends, you will start feeling happier and more connected to the world around you. Many of the people suffering from depression have no one to talk to and no support system to help them bounce back from whatever problems they are facing in life. Don’t let that happen to you.

  • Start Exercising and Eating well

An often-unstated means of combating many physical, mental, and emotional problems is through exercising. Working out releases chemicals called endorphins into your system. These chemicals reduce stress and make you feel good and positive about your life.

The second part of this is eating well. When your body is not getting the essential nutrients obtained from a balanced diet, you will not be operating at an optimal level. Your body will also be under undue stress, which can weaken the immune system and lead to illnesses such as heart disease. Malnutrition causes fatigue, which, in turn, affects how productive you will be.

  • Rethink Your Goals and Your Life

Sometimes our lack of motivation in whatever we are doing comes from the fact that it is not what we are supposed to be doing. It’s not the thing that excites you so much that you forget you haven’t eaten anything. Therefore, you have to find your purpose in life. Look for whatever it is that makes you happy; something that you are willing to learn to be great at doing, and that helps you meet all your basic needs.

If you are doing something you don’t love, it will take all your physical, mental, and emotional strength. Moreover, at some point, you will feel overwhelmed and exhausted; that you can’t take it anymore.

There is no need to live such a life. You can make a difference in how you have been living. Do it today!